Top 4 Ways to Support Your Partner During an Unplanned Pregnancy

A Guide for Men

So, she informs you that she is, or thinks she might be, pregnant. Now what? Many things will probably race through your mind, especially if this pregnancy is unplanned. It will be helpful to practice the 4 Ls: listen, learn, look, and love.

Listen: Begin and continue to listen to your baby mother’s feelings about and throughout this pregnancy journey (joys, concerns, attitudes, etc.) You’ll find that the better you listen, the more she will share and the more supported she’ll feel.

Learn: Become a student of your baby’s mother. Learn what her needs, preferences, and habits are.

Look: Seek opportunities to create and provide the kinds of support she tells you she really desires. Look for big and small gestures that will resonate with her.

Love: Throughout the pregnancy, as honestly and as often as you can, tell and show her that you love her and your coming child. Remember the better you listen to her, the more you learn from her, and the harder you look for ways to support her, the more loved she’ll feel.

If you need more practical pregnancy journey tips from a man’s perspective, reach out to Lans at Pregnancy Support Services. He is here to help and would love to hear from you.